Touch

“You receive through the same doorway through which you give. The way to receive freely is to give freely. Quality is more important than quantity, since the universe amplifies thought into circumstance. Begin giving, and let God perfect your giving.” ~ Brad Jensen

Urbanism is the life way which modern people pursue all day long, after almost one year social experience accumulate ever since graduated, I can’t find what other people around taught me more than what I think who I am. I am not a courage enough guy to face up it not because touchable difficulties but inner timidity, being in fears of imagination, afraid of helpless, and despair which come down my mindset.

It remind me a interview happened on valentine's day two weeks ago when I backed to home, one Briton hold onto a conversation with Andy at my home with a topic of, concerning love, what are the difference between east Asia people and westerns, how the hell could I tell that intelligent question on that certain meaningful day coupled with three years meditation? Yes, I am alone I admit, but I was happy or not anything made me upset for sure however, all changed right after being posted that great question.

I don’t know exactly, some removed and remote stories occurred to me and ushered into my heart all at once, bogged up everything, I was not happy. I answered after a short hesitation; the main difference may be, probably, some Chinese guys are willing to find a way to express themselves more humidity, more indirectly, that doesn’t mean they are afraid of telling someone he love her, but it will be better to sprayed and received the signals via a tacit understanding path, they can contribute and give all they have to their love if they determined unwaveringly, in that case, they may also pushed hastily and heavily, more give more receive, give first and then love followed certainly.

But, unfortunately they are wrong or at least I am wrong, the gal you loved is not only the one you loved but also the one as a independent individual, they have their own feeling, and they make their own choice with or without you, anyone should have been owned their willingness to live. You love her, so you want to dominate and control her to live as the way you think she should adopt, since you love her, you give more but care less, you don’t know what they are thinking about exactly, you don’t know how to continue but grumble, what’s up with…? You are always annoying, you can’t find the reason why give not equal to receive. So you lose out you love, as you’d cut the wings of your love, you drained out the water of your love, you deprived the right of she love you. So to speak, you are sincerely facing the music, but you are idiot indeed.

Snuggled into the seat of shuttle bus near the corner, not being found, the burst of the cold air, through windows, refreshed my mind, this is one afternoon of working day, escaped from office and made me immersed into the crowd, vehicles, up and down.

about snow

It is still not so late for the citizens to share the amazing snowflake firstly this year. Looks seem as a gentle reminder to us that they are coming even a little bite postponement, but still white enough, pretty enough, chaste enough. Yep, like a kid’s puppy palm touching your cheeks with its instinct chill but cozy later. They are belonging to the paradise but now here to decorate the withered winter and to water the drought city with all of their love. Drift and scatter everywhere, touch it and then kiss it with their fragrance. They seem not willing to ramble over for a long time at one place, flying to another corner, seamless the world, skipping away without noting once in a while, they are fairy, dancing gracefully, mock at the rushing crowds passing by, induce or lure, attractive, appealing, charming, moving, they just go head, looking for their soul mate unremittingly, they know where they want to go definitely, they know it is dangerous journey in the times of adventure permeating, they are desire to show a secret which can’t be spoken out before, it is a secret they’d like to share with the one who know them from inner only. They whisper to me, tell me the truth, ask me to continue, don’t be of timidity, don’t be shame, don’t be afraid since they go along always.

“Why is it so cold this winter?”

“Because of snowing”

“Let’s pile up a snowman?”

“Fine, then warm him with my red scarf, he won’t feel cold so”

I bet that all my memorable stories happened to be the period filled with snow, from classroom to dorm, canteen to library, park to lake, mathematics to economics, optimism to pessimism, prospectively to despairingly, happiness to madness, yesterday to tomorrow, reunite to re-departure, trust to betray, friend to opponent, lover to stranger all of the scenes should be storage on the shelf, unexpectedly, the snow let them go everywhere and spill out of my mind. It is not the murder of snow-self, since they are not the same crystal any more. Contrary to the day before long long ago, when we are rosy cheeks, red lips, and supple knees, we play in the snow, sprayed and shot the snowball to anyone in front of us, we are happy and certainly that will imprint in my memory until next snowy day, for what, for their white, prettiness and chasteness.

Love and its story

A girl and a boy were on motorcycle, speeding through the night. They love each other a lot.

Girl: “Dear, slow down, I am so scared.”

Boy:” No, it is fun”

Girl: “please, it is terrible”

Boy: “Then, say you love me”

Girl:”Ok, fine, I love you, could you slow down now?”

Boy: “Give me a big hug”

The girl gave him a big hug.

Girl:” Now, could you slow down? Dear”

Boy: “please take off my helmet and put it on, it is uncomfortable and bothering me while driving”

Next day, the newspaper reported that a motorcycle crushed into a building, because the brakes were damage, two persons on the motorcycle, of which one died, another had survived. That guy knew the brakes not work at that time but he was not willing to tell the girl since he knew that would make her scary. So at last he got the answer that she loved him and a big hug from her, and then the girl survived, he died.

Once in a while, right in the middle of our life, love always gives us a fairy tale.

May be the above is only a story which wants to lesson us the true meaning of love, you guys can assume it as a joke only, but do you always pursue for love? If so, what is the true love after all?

On the occasion of her birthday yesterday, LS told me lots of feeling which she esteemed as principles of how you hunt for love and being loved simultaneously.

I love you not because who you are, just because who I am when I am with you. No man or woman is worth your tears, the one who is won’t make you cry. The worst thing to miss someone is beside them knowing you can’t have them. Not frown, because you are not for sure who is falling in love with your smiles. To the world, you may be the one person, but to one person you may be the whole world. Just because someone doesn’t love you as the way you want them to, doesn’t mean they don’t love you with all they have.

You’d better for sure that whether she is the Ms right when you come across, don’t be exposure so much before you know her well, if not, all the actions you take will scare her away. It make no sense that still waste time on the one who is not willing to waste time on you. We are not as young as we think previously, we can’t make us entrenched by a certain coincident feeling at once, that may be just illusion float upon the sea.

PS: May be God wants us to meet the so many wrong person before meet the right one, and finally when you get them, you would have learned to being grateful. Don’t cry because it is over, smile since it happened.

Live in the moment

Tucked away in our subconscious is an idyllic version, we are on a long trip that spans mountains.

We are traveling on the train. Out windows, we drink by the passing scene of car on the nearby highway, of cattle grazing on the distant hillside, of children waving on the crossing, of smoke pouring from the power plant, of row upon of corn and wheat, of mountains and rolling hillside, of city skylines and village halls.

But uppermost in our mind is the final destination. On a certain day at a certain hour, we will pull ourselves into the station, bands will be playing and flags waving, once we get there, so many of wonderful dream will come true, and pieces of our lives will fit together like a jigsaw puzzle. How restlessly we pace the aisles, damning the minutes for loitering and waiting, waiting for the next station.

“When we reach the final station that will be it”

“When I left home and boarded on the train for study at the first time”

“When I encountered to my first love”

“When I graduated from college”

“When I got my first job and a promotion later”

And so,

“When could I afford to a new 450SL Mercedes Benz?”

“When could I pay off the mortgage?”

“When could I put my last children through the college?”

“When I reach the age of retirement I should live happily ever after”

However, the point is that how many hours still belong to me after all, at that time?

Sooner or later, we will recognize that it is no station; it is no place for arrival at once and for all, the true joy of life is on the trip, the so called station is only a dream, it constantly outdistances us.

It is not the burden today that drives man mad, it is the regret over yesterday and fear of tomorrow, regret and fear are two twin thieves that rub us of today.

So stop pacing the aisles and counting the miles, instead climbing more mountains, swimming more river, go barefoot more often, eat more ice and corn, smile more and cry less, the life should be lived as we go along.

CLARITY CREATES SIMPLICITY

Most of us have to-do lists. Many of us have long terms goals. Few of us have a list of how we actually want to feel in our life. Yep, it is also the parts of integrity.

And aren’t feelings the whole point? The income, the relationship, the hot body’, the high thread count cotton sheets - everything on our to-do, to-get, to-experience lists all drive back to the feelings that we crave … connected, comfort, powerful, rich in love and cash, beauty, vitality, useful, calm.

And so it goes that a solid make-it-happen strategy should be grounded in the awareness of how you want to feel. It’s the elemental point that most action plans and goal setting systems overlooked. Each feeling is a beacon that attracts a reality. Love attracts love. Gratitude attracts more reasons to be grateful. Generosity creates a generous response. What we focus on expands. So choosing to focus on feelings that, well, feel good, is a sure way to create the experience you want.

The last night of lunar New Year, refuse putting my ass on the shuttle bus and rash to move, I rambled around on the road, lonely. It definitely is a beautiful night; I can’t find a certain position to fix my eye, flashing flame and blazing firecrackers blasted everywhere, even the tiny corner has been crowded with exciting guys, children, adult, elders, it is the fireworks light the flowery night piece, it is the passion intrigue the whole city’s dream. So fantastic it is, you can’t hear, can’t breath, even you dare to move, you have a deeply feeling that where I am, the war field, if not why I hear tens of thousands cannon-shot explosive, am I being injured? Are the aliens attacking the city? Devastated, plague, nuclear weapons, death toll, running through the whole city, I just funned myself and keeping move along the North Fourth Ring station by station. Suddenly, most of the similar scenes occur to me as if the feeling was hanged out to so many years ago by a time machine, I saw the mirth, the moon again. As Echo said, the same moon, the same splashing flame probably,

When you’re clear on how you want to feel, you can be open to what life wants to give you. You’ll be anchored to the function, rather than the form. And this is really the essence of simplified living - a focus on what matters most. The house, the partner, the job may not “look” like you wanted, or come when you expected, but if something or someone generates the positive feelings you’ve been longing for, you’ll be able to let that good stuff into your life.

When you’re clear on how you want to feel you instinctively know what to say yes to, and when to say, “no, thank you.” And that’s the best feeling in the world.

Spring point

At the very beginning of the ox year, today you can dubbed it as the initial point of one year, also means the first day for guys to pursuit again. They come back, with tremendous chores that will fill with the road, the office, and of course the dream. I am the one of them unfortunately but excitingly.

Dear, you are just requested to pray for them with your pure consciousness and compassion. They all cherish the dream a bunch of time even looks like a lot more differences however, they are beauty. No one really wants to leave behind the flow, farewell with wife, children, and elders; they are on road which even doesn’t for sure to lead where. May be they are gonna back again with a scattered and tatters in dream one year later, now at least they are happy.

Feb in Beijing is still cold, but the first sign of spring can be observed at somewhere of this city. As a saying goes that the time to plan for a year is in spring. Every morning, jogging on the road with some older couple making exercises, pavement between the lobbies are lots of mirth. Do you have want to plot this meaningful year at this initial point? Yes, of course, you may assume with lots of wills permeating romantic senses, you may also desire to imagine a miraculous encounter after a whole day hard work when you ramble around, you may long for being irrigated with the lake water suffuse millenarian loves, you may be clutched and don’t want to move again by attacking from even a abloom tranquil peach blossom. How could that possibly be if you can put your body in the cement jungle hustle and bustle without a periodical ease. You need it; me too, because by taking this can refresh our mind and soul. To keep a lived high spirit is the key point to ensure this yearly transition, just do it, no more hesitation needed, it is your dream, that is matter, dare to make it, dare to make it out. You guys, cheers here for the feat come in soon.